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" Then sip your coffee, smile, and say "You should see how all the girls/(guys) look at you.I bet you're really enjoying the single life..." Their immediate response will be telling. Someone who'd like to be through with playing, on the other hand, may be flattered but will also look vaguely uncomfortable, as if the shoe doesn't quite fit, and may even tell you, "Actually, it gets a little old." Either way, you've got your answer.Again, in this case, see "Your Last Recourse" below.If all your efforts to unveil your mystery person have come to nought, it's time to be deeply suspicious.
And if "The Pitfalls of Cyberlove" have clouded your judgement before you even meet the other person, you're in even more danger.If he or she doesn't check out, you've saved yourself a world of misery and heartache; on the other hand, if he or she checks out okay, you still must find out why they weren't more forthcoming with you.If you choose option B, you might want to confront him or her in the presence of a relationship counselor.From then on, there's no way to make your question sound casual, and their responses will be at best guarded, and at worst calculated to be the "right" answer. What you're looking for is to learn whether someone's had long-term relationships in the past and whether or not they're close to their family -- both are indicators of someone's general inclination toward longterm commitments. Just start with a little self-disclosure: "I don't get to see my family as much as I'd like -- didn't you say your folks live in Chicago? " What they answer will give you some early clues about how they value family relationships.Even if a new person passes the Commitment-Mindedness checks and you feel intensely attracted, keep your head.