Not good at dating
“Someone who needs to feel connected to another human being in order to survive will adapt their likes and dislikes to you,” says Megan Hunter, co-founder of the High Conflict Institute in California and Arizona.She warns that if you’ve “suddenly found a partner who also loves horses, worships your favorite sports team, has the same type of friends, and loves the same movies,” then they’re probably just a little bit codependent.“Some of the brightest high-intensity sparks happen with people with personality disorders who can later be harmful to us.Strong chemistry isn’t always a warning sign, but it’s a signal to take your time and proceed with caution.” The idea that everyone has one person that is meant for them is surely romantic—but in the end, that idea may cause more problems than anything else.But getting too far into the nitty gritty of ensuring everything is equal can actually cause more trouble than it’s worth. “It’s like saying, ‘I’m willing to accept some disappointment and pain as long as the person I love most in this world suffers, too,'” she says.“Whether it’s the emotional work of a relationship or those awful chores, no couple can split them fairly,” Newbold says. People in love give generously, not because they’re told to, but because it feels good. Instead, you should be looking for “third alternatives.” “That’s when you each let go of your first idea and look together for a third option that makes both of you at least as happy as your first one made you,” she says.
Putting the children first often leads to resentment in the relationship and entitled children.” Very few couples have a seamless move-in experience, so if you follow this advice, you might assume that these hiccups along the way mean your relationship is doomed. “Healthy, happy couples don’t start out compatible,” explains marriage educator Patty Newbold.
“How many times have you heard people say they’ve found their soulmate?
Wait a few years and you may witness them finding another soulmate after the first one disappeared,” Hunter says.
“Stop playing these silly games and show a little interest back.
You will be giving yourself many more opportunities with people you otherwise might have missed out on.” Waiting for someone else to make the first move will often leave you just, well, waiting.